But what is clear to me now is the crucial role that adults play in teaching kids appropriate ways to behave and not by saying so, but by doing so.This is my story of a year of bulling, and not a terrible one relative to what we’ve heard about the many children who’ve suffered bullying for years. And now, too often, publicly on the Internet.Far too many of these young victims decide to escape their torture by killing themselves (both figuratively by isolating themselves, and literally by taking their own lives). Bullying at any level and toward any person needs to stop, and we must come to see that we all need to play a vital role in making it end.The purpose of this article is to highlight what years of researchers have come to understand: that a large percentage of kids who engage in bullying behavior have learned how to act in this way either directly or indirectly by the adults who have had the greatest influence on them such as parents, older siblings, relatives, teachers, media personalities, and so on.In other words, the bullying behavior has been legitimized by adults, and more often than not, the recipients of bullying often results in these same kids going out into the world with the motive to ‘rewrite’ the story of their own powerlessness through a continuous string of ‘zero sum games’.That is, where they must gain at the expense of someone else’s loss and the loss of ‘the other’ more often than not includes perpetrating the same bullying behavior they themselves were victim to during an earlier stage of their own lives.From my experience over the years as a psychotherapist, I see two types of individuals arise out of childhood bullying:Those who make a silent promise that they’ll never, EVER, let anyone dominate them again and, thus, they become bullies themselves; and,Those who’ve become hyper vigilant to the pain of others because they’ve experienced a great deal of pain themselves as children and can, therefore, relate.Typically, these are empathetic individuals but ones who suffer from their own wounds, for example, being overly sensitive to the reactions of others.Yet, for all its pluses and minuses, I thankfully became the latter type of person, as the choice of my profession reflects.Regardless, research results indicate that we are indelibly formed by what we experience as children, and if you’ve ever been the target of bulling, you know exactly what I mean.
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